I recently discovered that most people don’t care much for Christmas despite what others think. I was wondering why this was the case, and thus I did some research. Here is what I’ve found out.

Most of the time, the number one reason people don’t like Christmas is that the intensity of the holiday preparations, all the shopping, and family demands to make things perfect and festive – make people cringe.

I don’t know about you, but if you walk outside and watch the traffic and human behavior around the holidays – everyone is crazed. Why is that?

Well, that Aunt from Australia is coming for Christmas, and we sigh, nobody wants to see HER. Someone might add, gosh, I have to get a present for my boss and have no clue what to get him. And, we sigh once again. Or, the house needs to be cleaned before the out of state guests arrive, and we don’t have money to hire a cleaner—double, sigh.

Besides, the stores have long lines and more rushed stressed customers who probably think the same way. The commercial aspect of buying, buying, and more buying is the real Grinch that stole Christmas. I think we forgot what Christmas is supposed to be like. That’s the whole clue to the miserable feeling. We need to discover how to celebrate Christmas again.

Of course, for those who are religious, Christmas is all about the above mentioned plus the celebration of little Jesus’s birth. So not only do they have to endure the family stress and the “shop till you drop” syndrome, but they also have to make sure that they attend all sorts of church services.

However, for the rest of the people who might think that Hallmark and Amazon invented Christmas – the misery doesn’t get easier.

To make things a bit more understanding around Christmas time, let’s look at the past. What did people do for Christmas 100 years ago? Or 200 years ago? I mean, I’m throwing a considerable year gap that’s at least is still in the history books. Let’s not forget that Jesus was born over 2000 years ago, so there were already 2020 plus Christmases!

Back in the old days, it was unthinkable for shops to be open on Sundays or 7 am or 10 pm. Nobody would come to work during those hours anyway. Moreover, years ago, there were fewer TV channels, fewer commercials, and looking further into the past, we had no TV at all.

As such, constant advertising was not inundating human brains. Also, because the job workflow was not as busy and many women stayed home with the children, there was more time to prepare for Christmas without the stress and the rush.

Furthermore, I don’t think that Abraham Lincoln would have trampled over his neighbors’ heads during Black Friday hysteria, mainly to buy a horse buggy or a leather armchair. Nah, I don’t think he would be into that if he were still alive. I think he’d rather sit in his old chair and smoke a cigar. Indeed, what is wrong with that?

Well, how do I make it feel more like Christmas – you ask?

The best way to get into the holiday spirit is to give the people you love something they can’t buy in the shops. Yet, give them something that they can keep with them forever.

And that, my friend, is time and memories.

I wonder how many people will glance over my blog post right now and laugh—probably many. But I genuinely don’t care because the purpose of my blog is to reach one woman at a time.

So perhaps you’re contemplating today, somewhere on this globe, and you’re reading my blog, and you’re wondering how to make Christmas feel more like Christmas. And I’m telling you how. Give the people you care about your time.

Call that friend you haven’t seen in six months and find out how she’s doing. Meet her for a cup of coffee. Listen to her story. Snap a selfie to create memories. Or, if you have a family, take time off from work, and spend time with them exclusively. But not just for an hour or twenty minutes. Do something with them. Create extraordinary memories.

It’s the stories we create that are the most valuable Christmas gifts! That’s how you make it feel like Christmas. That’s how you make it unique. You don’t have to smoke a cigar like Abraham Lincoln, although truthfully, I simply visualized him like this. I honestly don’t know if he smoked cigars.

Perhaps you have neighbors that you only wave to once a week. Why not bake a pie and bring it over. Start a conversation. Bring your kindness and warmth into their lives. Remember the old movies? People used to welcome new neighbors with pies—that person who received the pie most likely never forgot that moment nor the pie. Little moments like that are priceless.

Kindness is not trendy anymore. Maybe that’s why people don’t like Christmas. They forgot how to be kind.

There is no need to buy aimless gifts and spend a fortune during Christmas. And the house doesn’t need to look better than the Jones’s. A simple, fresh Christmas wreath will do.

Boil a pot of water with cinnamon sticks and orange peels to make the house smell festive. Make a delicious meal. Don’t just order from a restaurant. You do that every week.

Take out that porcelain dinner set that’s been sitting in a box somewhere. Set a table cloth and some candlesticks. Put on a lovely dress or a shirt. Dress it up with a smile.

And in that festive, celebratory mood, spend quality holiday time with your loved ones while singing songs, talking about everything, and laughing until your belly hurts.

Also, show your family and friends that they are important and turn off the TV, turn off the iPhones and iPads. Let go of technology for a few days. I promise – you’re not going to die.

During Christmas, focus on your family. Direct your attention to the people in your life. Listen to their stories, tell them yours, and create incredible lifetime keepsakes that you will never forget.

And THAT, my dear friend, would be a truly wonderful way to create an unforgettable Christmas!

The Grinch who stole Christmas can only remain alive if you let him. In this case, I don’t know; maybe it’s Walmart, or Marshall’s, or Macy’s. It doesn’t matter. They’re all the same. Do you believe that they care about Christmas by telling their employees to work such odd hours? By staying open no matter what for profit? No, they don’t care about Christmas.

But you do! So, do not shop until you drop, do not get sucked into consumerism. Set your priorities with how and what you give and how you spend your time.

Go ahead and create heartwarming, beautiful presents called memories that no department store will ever offer at any clearance event.

Give kindness, give time.

Have a very Merry Christmas!

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